The “inner child” is the childlike version of yourself. The inner child is the part of us that reflects the child we were when we were young. It is what we have been taught as children and when we suppressed how to deal with feelings, trauma, challenges, other people, etc.
Even as adults, our inner child is always within us, and it is continually that piece of our character that acts in response to difficulties. This indicates if your 6-year-old self was hurt, although you are an adult now, it is that 6-year-old self who reacts to similar challenges in your life since that damage did not heal.
The purpose of inner child healing is to repair those wounds and to get back in contact with the self before traumatic encounters happened. This helps to reconnect with the childlike happiness & enthusiasm we used to feel like a child.
You Have All Ages From Your Past Within You
Signs when your inner child is hurt
Most of us have experienced some form of suffering and traumas in our childhood we need to heal from. Bonding with our inner child can support the healing process.
There are several ways of how childhood pain can occur in our adult selves.
Some common signs that your inner child is still wounded are following:
You are very self-criticising:
When you accomplish something new, do you honor it and celebrate yourself, or do you prefer to judge yourself on how you could have made it better? Nothing is good enough; everything needs to be perfect and you feel you are never good enough no matter how hard you try.
You have a perception of losing yourself:
If you were educated to live for the sake of others and to focus on other’s happiness over your own happiness. You may have felt guilty and selfish if you were to look after yourself first. This could have made you later feel, as an adult, uncertain of your own identity.
You have difficulties with setting boundaries:
When saying no is too difficult, you feel you cannot set healthy and clear boundaries and you would prefer to feel uncomfortable than to offend somebody else. Even as an adult you find yourself constantly being taken advantage of, being manipulated, and mistreated by others.
You require frequent reassurance:
By learning at a young age to be a people pleaser, you lose the capability to reassure yourself and regularly seek external approval. You may feel like a loser if not receiving approval.
You are experiencing severe anxiety:
You are continuously going through the increased intensity of anxiety and depression when moving into a different type of situation. If you do not have control over it, and you do not know what to expect or what will happen, or how others will behave, it can make you feel even more anxious and nervous.
You have trouble dealing with emotions:
You may feel often feel embarrassed when you feel emotions like anger or sadness and find it hard to control or release your feelings in a healthy way.
Furthermore, you may notice when your inner child is wounded with the following emotional wounds and symptoms:
- Emotional eating
- Insecure and low self-esteem
- Addictive behavior
- Panic attacks
- Shortness of breath
- Chronic physical pain
- Limiting beliefs
Why is it essential to healing your inner child?
If you were mistreated, abandoned, did not experience compassion, or suffering from distress and trauma as a child, uniting with that inner child can assist you to heal emotional pain. When those wounds are not known or healed, we repeatedly respond from that wounded place. Instead of reacting to the condition, we are in as a grown person, we react out of suffering we have kept since our childhood.
Inner child healing is a form of therapeutic holistic healing that supports us to observe our past experiences without judgment. When we look back as grown adults, we can also see it from a viewpoint of an adult rather than seeing the event as we did as kids by invalidating the pain we may have been affected by. As we understand now that the painful event may not have been finally not as bad as we used to experience it, the pain we felt at that time was truthful and legitimate and may still have an impact. Understanding to relate with that inner child, have compassion and validate the pain the inner child experienced can heal the pain. It also helps us to focus on our own feelings & emotional needs in the current moment. It is a method that works across time and space as energy healing has no limitations or restrictions.
Benefits of an inner child healing
Inner child healing can remove the root of the issue and it can bring some clarity to uncertain aspects of your life. With a professional guided inner child healing meditation, you can discover all the feelings and memories the child was forced to repress. The concept is to get into contact with the inner child and to listen and nurture him or her. It can help to understand and to heal the suppressed challenges one may be facing in adulthood.
Some of the major benefits for inner child work include the following:
- Improved mental wellbeing
- Better physical wellbeing
- Helps to release stress and tension
- Can relieve anxiety and depression
- Enhances quality of life
- Improves Insomnia
- Helps to release deep routed trauma
- Dissolves energy blockages
- Balances body, mind, and spirit
- Compliments other treatments
- Clears the mind
- Helps to feel more grounded and centered
- Improves focus and concentration
- Aids better sleep
Inner child healing with Reiki can help to remove energy blockages across time and space. Therefore you can do inner child work with distance healing from far or face to face.
Healing your inner child is a process, most efficiently done with a trusted holistic healing practitioner. There are many methods that can be used to heal love your inner child. Contact Holistic Healing by Dani if you are interested in inner child healing, Reiki, or a combination of both.